It sounds like you're just letting them win, to me.

[Luke says it before he thinks how that sounds. He cringes, and then worries about cringing, and then wonders if Tarn can even read human expressions. Luke certainly can't read his expression.]

[Can he read his emotions through the Force? Luke reaches out with his mind and feels... something. It's so unlike anything he's ever felt, he's not sure how to read it. It might not even be Tarn.]

[But that's besides the point.]

If you just stand alone and don't change, you're letting everyone else make the rules about who fits in and what counts as right.